Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Friends aren't always right..

This past weekend three of my friends got engaged, yes THREE!!  And I couldn't be more excited!!  I have to say I truly love weddings and couldn't be happier for them.

One of the girls that got engaged is a great friend of mine, and one of my bridesmaids, Becca.  I actually got to be a part of her proposal and witness it!  It was so emotional and amazing!  But one of the things that hit me the hardest was the fact that when they first started dating, I was totally against this guy.  I can't say she and I got in a huge argument about it, but we definitely got into a disagreement.  She basically told me that she knew more than I did and that this relationship was the right decision for her.  So I kept my opinions to myself and supporter hers.

Flash forward two years to when I started dating Cale, my now fiance, and I was put in the same place I put Becca.  My then so called best friend didn't agree with me dating Cale for various reasons:  she thought it was too soon since my last relationship, thought our pasts were too different, thought he was "too nice".  But the problem is she never got a chance to know him.  She never gave him the chance to realize the type of guy I had described in all our years of friendship as the guy I wanted to marry was Cale.  We stopped being friends for lots of reasons, but that was definitely a big one.

In my opinion, as a best friend, you absolutely have the right to tell someone, "I don't think this is the right guy for you".  However, after that, you don't need to keep hounding them.  It's their relationship; it's their life, not yours.

So with that, I can say, I was wrong.  I was wrong that Ryan wasn't the right guy for Becca.  Talking to him about the proposal and seeing how happy my friend is made everything feel right.  I can't imagine a better man for Becca and I know she is the perfect girl for him too.  I'm happy I was wrong, and so excited for their marriage!  It just goes to show you shouldn't always take your friends' advice :)

Colossians 3:12-14 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

An Abundance of Blessings

Being engaged is supposed to be one of the happiest times in your life right?  But not with out a little bit of stress...  SO I'm writing to remember the many blessings Cale and I have received while planning our wedding.  Because regardless of how much money you spend on your wedding, at the end of the day you're still going to be married and THAT'S WHAT SHOULD MATTER :)

Many of my friends know my mom and step-dad lost their jobs as part of the Continental/ United merger, and before Christmas, my dad faithfully quit his position at his church.  So when Cale and I got engaged, we knew that we would be fronting the cost for the wedding.  The GREAT parts about this are that we were forced to have those difficult money talks before we were married, and (Dave Ramsey would be so proud) we are paying for our wedding in cash so we won't be in debt as we start our marriage!

Now the best part has been watching God move and make things happen!  Here are just some of the ways Cale and I have been financially blessed!  I mean the whole wedding was planned in 10 days- how is that not a blessing right there?

- 3 days after our engagement, Cale and I went to lunch and ran into a family friend who used to work at The Woodlands Church (formerly Fellowship) and he was able to get us a discount at the chapel where I wanted to get married 
- our engagement pics are free
- my wedding dress was free (well of no cost to us thanks to the generous donation of what I'll call an angel on earth)
- all my reception decor was donated from a friend who just got married last September
- my wedding invitations are being done by my soon to be sister-in-law (seriously one of the nicest people ever)
- our DJ is a friend and our wedding present is his talents (and he IS talented- just wait)
- my photographers are friends that do AMAZING work at a fraction of the cost of most photogs Check them out here
- and a silver lining to my dad not having a steady income is he is moving and giving all his nice furniture to Cale and I for our new home*
I can't wait to decorate
- my girl friend is an amazing make-up artist who thought she was double booked, but it turns out she's able to do hair and make up the day of my wedding Check her out here
-  I feel like I'm missing so much more but that's a start for you!!!

I just want to say a big thank you to all the friends and family who have supported us in our wedding endeavors.  And there are no words to our friends and family who are helping us pull this off with in our budget.

*I just have to brag on God a little bit more here.  My dad's house sold with in 24 hours of him deciding he should sell it WITH OUT it EVEN being listed.  And we're talking about Arizona here, where the economy and number of foreclosures far out weight that of Texas.


Tuesday, March 6, 2012


I can't believe it has taken me so long to write about the happiest day of my life (to date).  I got engaged to an amazing Godly man! 

Ask any one who knows me and they'll tell you am passionate.  Two things I'm passionate about are my faith, and Texas A&M.  Cale combined the two of them into the best proposal I could have ever asked for!
Well, I thought Cale and I went up to A&M for the weekend to celebrate with two of our friends for their birthday and to go to eat for our 5 month anniversary (for the record, Cale has celebrated every month anniversary).  So we packed up and left Houston Saturday morning for College Station.  Lucky for him, I accidentally played into his plan because I told him earlier that week I wanted to make sure I spent time with my girl friend, Shaye, for her birthday.  I called Shaye Thursday night to see what her plan was for the weekend and she said she just wanted to be lazy Saturday so we went up there and I had no makeup on...
Cale went to "run an errand" to get his friend, Colby, a little something for his birthday.. As Shaye and I were watching a movie and having some girl time, the doorbell rang.  Shaye answered and I heard this voice ask, "Is Lynne here?".  I got up to see a guy I've never met before.  He had a dress of mine, leggings, and a letter from Cale that told me to get ready, put that dress on, and be ready by 3pm sharp because a limo was going to pick me up.  *I knew here what was happening..
The limo came right at 3pm and Shaye told me that people were getting out of it.  Two of Cale's friends, Ryan, and Ben (the guy who dropped off my dress & leggings) showed up with the limo and gave me another letter from Cale.  This note was simple, referenced the fruits of the Spirit, and said he was forever mine.
Limo stop 1:  The first place the limo stopped was Cafe Eccell, the place of our first REAL date.  There to meet me were 3 of Cale's friends.  Natalie read another letter from Cale.  And then Natalie, Bryan, and Johnna read me a bible verse that correlated to the fruit of the spirit they gave me.  Each handed me a card with either "Self-Control", "Gentleness", and "Faithfulness" after they read their Bible verse.
Stop 2: The next stop took me to 'the ring'.  It's a giant replica of the Aggie Ring outside the Association of Former Students.  There waiting for me was my friend Amber and her husband, Shawn, and Cale's friends Nathan and Colby.  Colby read another letter from Cale.  Then each of them presented me with "Goodness", "Kindness", and "Patience" printed on a card after reading the Bible verse Cale picked out for them that correlated with their fruit of the Spirit.
Stop 3: The Century Tree.  Now, a lot of Aggies propose under this tree but I knew Cale wouldn't be there.  Instead, my friend Amber Gillespie was there.  Cale's friend, Ryan joined her as they presented me with "Peace" and "Joy".  Ryan read another letter from Cale, and both read a Bible verse to compliment their fruit of the Spirit.
And the fourth and final stop: Kyle Field!! Waiting for me at Kyle Field were Cale's brother and his wife (Will and Allison), and my sister and her husband and my niece (Bridget & Bric, and Brynleigh).  They presented me with "LOVE".  There was another letter from Cale and each couple had a Bible verse for me.  (this stop is where I cried the most because I love both of these couples for different reasons and I know Cale and I will learn so much from them).  Will and Bric walked me out to the South End of Kyle Field under the bleachers and the rest was up to me.  
Cale proposing

I walked out to the 50 yard line where Cale had a whole set up for me.  There was a trunk and on top of it was Cale's bible, opened to Galatians 5:22 (where it talks about the Fruit of the Spirit); a sign that said "I love you to the Moon and Back"; and a seventh letter telling me to opened the trunk.
When I opened the trunk there was every letter Cale had ever written me including when we were friends; every cork from any bottle of wine we ever opened; "Our Adventure Book", a replica of Ellie's 'my Adventure Book' from the movie Up; and the final letter from Cale telling me when I was ready to take a deep breath and turn around.
I stood up and turned around to see Cale walking towards me.  Once he got to the 50 yard line we hugged and he asked me to sit down on the trunk.  He proceeded to take off my shoes and he washed my feet.  During so, he talked about the significance of feet washing in the Bible and why Jesus humbled himself to wash the feet of those He loved.  When he was finished, and on bended knee he asked me to spend the rest of my life with him.

I said YES!!

Some of the Guys who helped make that day special :)

Photos of the proposal

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Blessings in 2012

If you had known me, you would have known my Father also. From now on you do know him and have seen him.”  --John 14:7

Last year, I made a New Year's resolution that I was going to spend more time with God.  In 2010 my spiritual grade was around a D; and this past year, I can honestly say it was more of an A or a B. (See my post last year to know what I mean by my spiritual grade).  But that grade didn't come easy...

Last year I moved to Houston, started a new job, and left a lot of things that I loved in Dallas because I was being obedient to God's calling for me to move to Houston and be here for my family.  With in a month of moving to Houston, my grandmother passed away, and I moved into a new house with a new room mate (I was living with my parents when I first moved here).  Then the hits kept coming... a bad relationship, my aunt died, my friend and father to my best friend's baby died, another aunt died, we had lay-offs at work, lost some friendships, and I moved again because my previous living situation just wasn't working..  For a while in all that I struggled with why God would allow me to have so much suffering after I obeyed Him.

Then, I realized I was being tempted, just like Job, to turn my back on God.. to blame Him for all these things happening to me.  Instead, I turned to God- to thank Him for fighting along side me.  Serving God doesn't mean we'll no longer have difficulties.  We're still on the battlefield, but we don't have to fight alone.  I just had to face a lot of trials to remember that!

So this year, my New Year's Resolution is going to be to LEARN more scripture.  My boyfriend is so good with being able to spit out scripture to encourage or help a situation and although I can tell stories from scripture I can't tell you the address (book, chapter, verse) where it's located like others can.  So this year, I am going to really try to focus on the scripture I am reading and take it to memory!  And thanks to this website from The Village Church, I have a great tool!

I'm also claiming God's blessings in 2012.  Last year had so many bumps and hurdles and I just know God is going to bless this next year!  And I can't wait to see what He has in store!

Friday, December 9, 2011

I have found the one whom my soul longs for..

I know it's been a while again...  My life has been amazing but also a whirlwind and I just haven't set aside the time to write.  But today, today I am inspired!

If you've read my previous posts, you've heard me talk about this mythical creature that seems to rarely exist in our society nowadays.  It's called a gentleman.  Wow, what is that you say?  Believe it or not, they actually exist!  In honor of this post, I saw this picture on pinterest and had to include it.

Debonair used to be sexy and now idiots are paid for reality shows

But ladies, guess what?  They do exist!!  I've seen other friends with them and just thought all the good ones were taken, but no.  At 28, I can finally say I've found him!  You know that saying? "Every woman deserves a man who calls her baby, kisses her like he means it, holds her like he never wants to let her go, doesn't cheat or lie.  Wipes her tears when she cries, doesn't make her jealous of other women, instead makes other women jealous of her, is not scared to let his friends know how he really feels about her, and lets her know how much he really loves her."  That's my boyfriend!  

Of course, I brag at all the sweet things he does for me and my girl friends are always asking if he can teach lessons to their husbands and boyfriends.  My friends are always like "I'm so jealous but I am so happy for you".  

He makes me a better person..  He holds me accountable..  He never stops trying to show me how much I mean to him.  I believe Frank Sinatra said it best, "I may sound old-fashioned, but I want to think all women should be treated like I want my wife, daughters, and granddaughters to be treated. I notice today that good manners—like standing up when a woman enters the room, helping a woman with her coat, letting her enter an elevator first, taking her arm to cross the street—are sometimes considered unnecessary or a throwback. These are habits I could never break, nor would I want to. I realize today a lot more women are taking care of themselves than in the past, but no woman is offended by politeness." THAT is my boyfriend.  He treats me like he would want a man to treat his mother and believes EVERY woman should be treated that same way.  He opens my door, opens the door for others, helps me across the street in heels and helps others too.  When I meet him some where, he and his friends stand up to greet me.

And to think I pushed him away at first.. To think I said "this isn't a good time" and I thought he deserved better.  Then I realized being afraid of happiness is complete nonsense.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

New Beginnings!

Happy New Year!!  For those of you who think I am crazy, Rosh Hasannah begins today at sun down.  Rosh Hashanah marks the start of a new year in the Hebrew calendar.  

I've written in a past post that 2011 has not been a good year for me, but today, in the name of the Lord, I am declaring this the start of a New Beginning!  I recently bought myself a new bible and put in there "A New Begins", Today I moved into my new place (praise the Lord), I have a new boyfriend (and for the first time in a long time, a healthy relationship), and I got a raise at work!

So here's to a New Beginning.. May I continue to run the race and lean on God for guidance in this crazy thing called life!  Amen.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things
-Philippians 4:8

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Wise Words

Being Christian doesn’t automatically make you sinless or without flaws. Being a Christian means you choose to follow in the steps and teachings of Jesus Christ, who is God’s son and who is perfect. But just because you choose to follow Jesus, doesn’t make you perfect. Human perfection is impossible. By claiming to be a Christian you are acknowledging the fact that you are imperfect—that you are a sinner. In this acknowledgement you are also implying that you are turning away from sin. Christianity is not a characteristic of an individual; it is a lifestyle choice. It is the decision to turn away from the sinful desires of this world and to willfully pursue righteousness and a godly life.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Planting Seeds

Do you know as Christians that we are supposed to share our faith with others?  I'm sure many of you do, but do you know what that looks like?  Part of our purpose as a Christian is to expand the Kingdom of God.  That doesn't just mean witnessing to other people.  That means living a life like Christ and showing His love to those around us.  Matthew 5:16 tells us to let our light shine before men so that they may see our moral excellence and out praiseworthy, noble, and good deeds and recognize and honor and praise and glorify our Father Who is in Heaven.  They should see Christ in us.

God is not interested in saving people just to mark it off His checklist.  As you read through Luke 10, you will see that we are called first to bless other people and to live along side them so that they can see we are different.  Evangelism is about more than witnessing, it's about being a witness.

I'm a wreck.. I'm not perfect and I make a ton of mistakes all the time!  And you know what?  God is still able to use me to work in the lives of others.  I don't really understand it all the time, but we don't get to choose how God uses us.  In the last month, I've had several people thank me for helping them in different aspects of their spiritual walk.  And I say that not to my glory but to God's.  He allows me to pour into other peoples' lives just as others have poured into mine.  and in doing so, I recognize areas in my own life that I need to work on.

In the parable of the sower, seeds are dropped on the path, on rocky ground, and among thorns, and the seed was lost; but when seed fell on good earth, it grew, yielding thirty, sixty, and a hundredfold. 
  • The seeds represent the word
  • The seeds falling on the road represent those who hear the word but dismiss it straight away - then the devil comes and takes away the word from their heart, so that they may not believe and be saved.
  • The seeds falling on the rocks represent those who hear the word, but only accept it shallowly - the synoptic state that these sorts of people reject the word as soon as it causes them affliction or persecution; they believe for a while, and in time of temptation fall away.
  • The seeds falling on thorns represent those who hear the word, and take it to heart, but allow worldly concerns on their way to choke it with worries and riches and pleasures of this life and bring no fruit to maturity.
  • The seeds falling on good soil represents those who hear the word, and truly understand it, in a honest and good heart.  They hold it fast, and bear fruit with perseverance. 
I've had plenty of people who completely seem to disregard anything I say and that's ok because I'm going to keep loving them like Christ loves and pray that some day something I've said or done takes root and grows them to be more in love with Christ and on a more spiritual path.   I encourage you to do the same (: 

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Adjusting to Houston

WHAT a WHIRLWIND the last 8 months has been:
- Moved to Houston
- Started a new job
- Grandma passed away
- Moved into a new house
- 9 weddings in 4 months
- Broke up with my boyfriend
- My aunt passed away
- Death of a high school friend (and my best friend's boy friend)
              [I think that's about it.. not a whole lot though right? JK]

In that time, one of THE most important lessons I've learned is God is in control.  I've never considered my self to be prideful, but this past week the sermon was about humility.  And I can truly say the year of 2011 has been a year of humility.  God has consistently and conscientiously reminded me that I can't do it on my own.  In the past, I feel like I've gotten by being "happy" through friends, life, and external things of this world.  It's almost like until we are broken, our life will be self-centered, self-reliant; and our strength will be our own.  It's in that time of brokenness we remember we need a savior.

I felt so broken and lonely after breaking up with my ex and it was through that time that I really began to heal from everything else I had gone through.  I ran to God for guidance, for peace, and slowly it has come around.  Through out this 8 month journey, I've also learned to accept Houston and that's a pretty bold feat if you think back to my feelings and attitude towards moving to this city and the resentment I had after being here:  I've found a great group of friends to hang out with;  I have a group of Bible study girls that I'm fervently in prayer with;  I'm getting acclimated to my new church; I'm getting ready to move into a new home and a much more peaceful environment. 

I'm finally beginning to see what I like to do around Houston, where I like to eat, go out, who I want to surround myself with.. I've connected with old high school friends which has been a BLAST!  And most importantly, I'm learning to be comfortable in my own skin.  The past two weekends I've had low key nights in with friends and great convo and nights out to connect with other friends I just don't get to see enough.

I can only imagine what else is in store for me, but I know I'm in a much better place to handle what life throws at me than what I was 8 short months ago, even 4 months ago.  Remember Faith in God also means Faith in His timing.

"The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy.  I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance to the full, till it overflows".  John 10:10 AMP

"I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have [perfect] peace and confidence. In the world you have tribulation and trials and distress and frustration; but be of good cheer [take courage; be confident, certain, undaunted]! For I have overcome the world. [I have deprived it of power to harm you and have conquered it for you.]" John 16:33 AMP

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

The "why" of life

 Joyce Meyer had a good sermon the other day about “why”.  WHY -  is there child sexual abuse? a young woman at 25 who passes away unexpectedly? a child is born disabled?  What Joyce says is we are not able to answer those questions – only God knows.  But Joyce says what she does know is that God gives us grace and strength to go through these situations.   

Well here's another one.  Why does a 27 year old man die one week after taking his bar exam; 3 months after graduating law school and why did his girl friend, one of my best friends, have to be the one that found him?  I don't know the answer to any of those questions and I won't know on this side of heaven- I'm sure of it.  But I know God has a purpose and a plan and I know that He is going to heal my girl friend through this difficult time.  And I'm writing this to ask you to join me faithfully in prayer for healing and comfort for my friend, Michelle, and for Ryan's family.  Thank you!

“For men are not cast off by the Lord forever. Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love.” (Lamentations 3:31-32 NIV)

My friend Michelle and her boyfriend Ryan both grew up with me in The Woodlands and we were all in the same grade.  About 3 years ago, Michelle and Ryan started dating.. Two years ago this November, they had a sweet baby boy named Jameson (that we call J for short).  The first weekend of August, Michelle was supposed to come out with me, but because Ryan was sick and her parents were out of town, she had no one to watch lil J.  Saturday morning I texted her to tell her a group of us was meeting at 4 before heading to White Linen Night.  She said Ryan was still sick and didn't know if she'd be able to make it... Three hours later she asked me to pray for her..

Michelle went over to Ryan's house after not hearing from him all day to find him dead in his bed.  She had been over there Saturday morning and left around 7:30 or 8.. It was the last time she heard from him.. She went back over around 2.. She said he was pale and cold, so he had been gone a while and despite that she started chest compressions.. Michelle is understandably beside herself right now and I think the hardest part for her is lil J growing up with out knowing his dad.  Ryan had just graduated law school in May, and took his bar exam the previous week.  After a congrats dinner last Saturday with friends, Ryan woke up feeling sick on Sunday, and it got worse as the week went on.  Wednesday he went to the doctor and again on Friday.  He had been prescribed a Z pack...

I spent the following day at Ryan's mom's house with his mom, step-dad, dad, sister, sister's boyfriend, Michelle, Jameson and our other friend Sabih..  It's been a really tough time for all of them. The autopsy results came back as inconclusive so they are left with a lot of questions still.

Thank you so much for praying.. and if you have any advice or scripture to pass on, I'd appreciate that as well.  Be blessed!